Topic of the day: Hugs.
Random...maybe.
But I've been thinking recently about how I don't give off the impression of wanting hugs. That hugs are a little awkward for me. That I can walk into a room behind someone and she'll be hugged and then it seems as though I push up this wall around me and the hugger immediately perceives that I don't want a hug.
Which is weird, because I come from a family who freely distributes hugs. Except for my dad (sorry dad) so am I getting this from him? Some sort of recessive gene that we received that no one else did, and if so why did we get this one and not the non-klutz one?
I also find it weird because I do want the hugs, so why do I immediately tense up? Am I worried that said hug-giver is not going to want to hug me so I decide to not give them a chance? Or is it just a not-that-close-yet thing?
I'm not really sure and I'm not trying to decipher why I am this way as much as I'm trying to figure out how to change it. Do I just run to people with open arms? Do I assume that they are about to give me a hug too? Or do I just wait until I've known them longer and then start with the hugs?
And I'm not even going to start thinking about that whole kiss on the cheek thing...easy as anything in Central America, confusing as all in Louisiana.
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I've noticed that you're not a bear hug type person. But I hug you anyway the way I want because I'm trying to give to you the message that I'm glad to see you and that I love you.
I usually don't hug just anybody. I only hug people close who are in my family.
I think you should just hug the way you feel like hugging, you don't have to reciprocate with a person you don't feel like hugging back.
Like JuJu said, "...just hug the way you feel like hugging." You know that my family would be attacking you with hugs right now if we could.
Also, as I read your post I was thinking about one of our missionary friends who lives in Russia right now. He is admittedly not a naturally huggy person, so think how he responded the first time a Russian man kissed him on the lips! That is a standard greeting over there.
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